After studying all the links, pictures, books etc., and getting a better look at what's left of the ends of my OTCA, I today was finally able to visualize completely how they're supposed to go together, with the inwales meeting and sitting on the end of the stem.
It looks like I'll be replacing both ends of both inwales and the top ends of both outer stems. Both of the inner stem ends are salvageable as are the ends of the outwales. Having the ends of the inner stems intact is going to help tremendously since everything can be fit to those locations.
I believe I'll need to bend wood for the outer stem ends, as well as for the inwale ends. I was hoping to dodge the whole steam thing but looking at them it seems hard to get around.
I also think I need to re-bend the last 6" or so of the aft deck as I believe it must have somehow lost a bit of its bend over years of not really being connected to anything solid to help preserve its shape. It was about 1/4" below where it should have been while the rest was lined up. And it's missing a chunk off the point which I assume I'll repair after rebending.
I should count my blessings; I don't believe I have any broken ribs, and only two small punctures of the planking. After all the repairs I've seen documented, I'm getting off easy, while at the same having bitten off more than I knew, and enough to feel good about it when done
Lastly, after reading about the "sub-deck" concept, as well as seeing how poor an idea it is to have nails and such going through the ends of any of these parts which are already so susceptible to decay, I'm going to be thinking about something like that. Right now I'm visualizing a brace bent from soft brass that would bridge across the bottoms of the inwales towards the tip, wrapping up around their edges between two ribs, and with a tab extending a few inches beyond the point to tie into the inner stem, a bit away from the junction of everything. Small screws could run up into the bottom edges of the inwales and the inner surface of the inner stem. It will be a while before I get to that point so plenty of time to think about it and take input. The idea being to get a solid connection between the inwales and the stem with less perforation of the ends of things.