Buddy List

Hey Dan , I don't know how it works either but when you find out let me know so I can put you on mine .
From the FAQ link at the top of the website

The buddy list is used to keep track of the friends you have made on this forum. By going to your "My vB Home", you'll be able to see which of your friends are currently online, and be able to send them a private message. Adding people to your buddy list also allow you to send private messages to multiple forum members at the same time. You may add any member of the forums to your buddy list by clicking this button in a member's posts.